The Art Of Cueing

“You should be able to teach in an evening gown.” 
-Romana Kryzanowska

In a protective boot and crutches (not nearly as sexy as an evening gown and only slightly less efficient), I am in Vestby, Norway visiting a Pilates “sister.” I have not seen Hanne Koren Bignell since my days at Drago’s Gym 21 years ago. Back then we used to work out together often and in 2018 Hanne has invited me to teach a few of her students in her Summer Teacher Training Program. Three days before I left the states I had an odd landing in a ballet class and severely injured my right foot, leaving me unable to stand or walk without crutches. But of course, I went ahead as planned. 

Since I had to teach without my legs supporting me, I sat on the spine corrector in the center of Hanne’s lovely studio. This apparatus made it easy for me to swivel around to see everyone. Armed with experience and enthusiasm, I felt ready for anything. I began with everyone standing. Traditionally, we begin the Pilates Mat by lowering down to the floor without the use of our hands. As the students all criss-crossed their arms and legs in preparation, I said, “Wait. Stand parallel.” 

Romana would frequently recommend to teachers-in-training to sit in a cafe and people watch. As each person walked by, she would advise us to think of how we would apply the work to that person. If they had rounded shoulders, which apparatus would we include? Or if they are leaning to one side how could we address that in their sessions? 

In other words: See the body in front of you and decide how to apply the work.

I surveyed the room. These are people I have not met before. I was stuck sitting on the spine corrector with all of these new and different bodies around me, some on low mats, some on high mats. I was teaching them for the first time. I needed a moment to see the bodies in front of me. One person was leaning slightly forward. Another was looking down. Everyone was quietly waiting for my next word. 

I made a simple request: “Shift your weight all the way forward toward your toes.” 

Followed by a question, “Can you feel what changed in your body?” 

“Shift your weight to your heels.” 

“What changed now?”

“Keep shifting slowly. Shift less and less until you feel balanced.” 

I am quiet. I observe.

“Reach your skull toward the ceiling. Reach your hips to your feet.”

“With that two way stretch, maybe you feel tone in your abdomen.”

Some students corrected a thing or two, some needed a bit more time. 

Everyone had brought their mind to their body.

Someone was still looking down…

“Everyone look straight ahead. Make your sight line parallel to the floor.” 

All skulls were now balanced on all spines. 

“Widen your ribs, inhale. Narrow your waist, exhale.” 

“Criss cross your legs and lower down to the mat with control.”

In that 1 minute intro, the foundation for a successful experience was established. I observed how each student took instruction. When I asked a question it showed they needed to take ownership of the work and that I respect their own knowledge. A certain level of trust was built. They could believe that I was going to pay attention, give a clear instruction and move on.

Once The Hundred began, we were on a journey. Together. 

Romana had a way of inviting people along with her when she taught. There was a spiritedness to her teaching. She taught from a place of joy. That joy flowed from her generosity. She gave her knowledge, humor and compassion without bounds. She taught from a completely authentic place that she intuitively understood was about a positive experience. She never seemed distracted, and the work was never about punishment, dominance or ego. She was having fun and you could feel it. There was something familial about it. Whether you were a ballerina, a 250lb film editor, or if you were bound to a wheelchair, you were always treated with the same care and attention. She was always registering your expression; looking for clues to suss out where you were in your level of surrender and ambition. If she could feel you were holding back, she would find subtle ways to summon your commitment. Through her own excitement and words she would buoy your confidence. Through simple things like, “Don’t say “can’t!’ Say, ‘I’d like to someday do this!”” It was never about how much she knew and how little you knew, but instead it was about how much she could give and how much you could you could receive. Maybe it was the age she was at when I worked with her—in her 70’s— she could sense who her students were mentally, spiritually and physically, and seemingly by telepathy, but really from experience, she knew what to give them.

With all of that in mind, what I learned from Romana about cues is that they should be simple; if a person is stuck  thinking  about your words, they can’t move. And if they aren’t moving, they aren’t doing Pilates. By simple, I mean clear and short. I remember the phrase “scoop et vous!” being in heavy rotation at Drago’s in the late nineties, which was a fun, spirited, french-ish way of saying “draw your abdomen in and up.” I’m sure that got replaced by something else in the following years. Romana would remind us that Joe used simple phrases too like, “In the air, out the air.” Or that your workouts should fit in everything you required in 55 minutes recalling his phrase, “An hour—in the shower.” When clients would ask Joe, “What is this good for?” He would quip, “It’s good for the body.” If an apprentice was teaching with too many words Romana would simply say to her mentee, “They don’t need to know all of that.”

As I taught my new Norwegian Pilates friends, I spotted that one of them could get caught up in her lordosis, and that another was not aware of her base leg in side kicks. Some things warranted singling out, “Anna in the blue, reach through your left leg a bit more.” Other cues applied to everyone, “lengthen your tail in the direction of your heels.” Sometimes multiple versions of exercises were tossed out—“First try with knees bent. To make it more challenging try knees straight.” Simple cues allow me to do more individuating. My mind is at ease. I have mental space to observe. And I can spread myself across the whole class with enough energy to guide, encourage and enjoy it all.

Perhaps the biggest thing that Romana showed me , which I believe is the most important piece of how I mentor others, is that she taught like herself, not like carbon copy of Joe or Clara or anyone else. Through her example I was liberated to teach like me.  Not like her. She never said, “Say it like this…” You can channel certain people when you teach—like she often channelled Joe, and like I often channel Romana— but you have so much more to offer others when you teach like you.