After my children were born, I was really surprised to discover I had a pretty pronounced diastasis recti. This separation of the abdominal wall was such a blow to my Pilates ego! What?! I am a Pilates teacher; there’s no way I have to worry about such a thing.
In the middle of a freezing cold New York winter I had two very vivid dreams that I was swimming in a pool. The sensation of being in the pool was luxurious and comforting and the effect of having the dream twice was too difficult to ignore--even in February. So I found the nearest indoor pool and got my ass to it. My process made me realize how simple (and energizing!) it can be to begin a new physical practice. I’m going to break it down to 5 Easy Steps.
According to astrology, through pinpointing your exact birth time and location, your orientation in the universe reveals what you are all about. My mission, my m.o., was revealed as transformation. When I heard that word, it completely made sense; the way I wake up in the morning, the places I've moved, the books I read, the things I think about at night, and certainly the way I approach my work at BodyTonic with clients, staff or apprentices or even the space itself. I desire to be an agent of transformation.
I surveyed the room. These are people I have not met before. I was stuck sitting on the spine corrector with all of these new and different bodies around me, some on low mats, some on high mats. I was teaching them for the first time. I needed a moment to see the bodies in front of me. One person was leaning slightly forward. Another was looking down. Everyone was quietly waiting for my next word.
Relationships are tricky. Friendships, courtships, co-working relationships all require thought and energy if you want them to go well. Recently, I had an epiphany that I am in a relationship with my body, and I am slacking. My schedule is a bunch of half-assed attempts to maybe get a class in. This in not a relationship that I feel good about.
What kind of relationship do you have with your body? Are you committed and kind? Are you abusive? Think about how you treat your friends, lovers, spouses, kids or your pets. Are you as good to your body as you are to them? Are you as good to your body as you are to the guy behind the counter at the deli? You might take your kids, partner or dog out to do something that will be fun, inspiring, challenging or motivating. Do you do that for your body?!
“If your spine is inflexibly stiff at 30, you are old; if it is completely flexible at 60 you are young.” —Joseph H. Pilates
The spine, with all of its versatility and utility, is a marvel in its design. It allows for a wide range of movements, whether exuberant or docile. It supports our bodies, provides an anchor for our limbs and protects the all-important spinal cord that sends messages from our brain to our body and back again. When we communicate with the world the spine tells the story of how we feel. Our posture can demonstrate confidence or reveal anxiety, fear, joy or sadness. It can also bear the markings of our lifestyle and repetitive work stresses.
It all starts with the breath. If there’s one movement or process that unites and anchors all of us in the world, it is the breath. The human body unites us, but human bodies can be so different in their proclivities, proportions, tone, strength and nuance. The breath can be very different from person to person too. But we all take in air and let it out, whether tall, short, athletic, atrophied, newborn or on death’s door. Aware of it or not, if we are alive, we are breathing.So what better way to begin to learn about our body, or THE body, than with the breath
Lately, in the Pilates community there’s been some buzz about body shaming. As someone embedded in the Pilates world since the 90’s I can honestly say, I have never felt that body size was a factor in this industry. I am so sad that it has become a conversation. As a matter of fact, a curvy, heavier teacher recently said to me, “I embraced Pilates as my fitness choice because anyone of any size, or age, or physical condition is welcome.” One of my first clients was about 75 pounds overweight. You know what she taught me? That sometimes bigger clients get more nervous standing on the reformer or going up and down on the electric chair—that’s it. The rest of the session was a mix of ups and downs, successes and humblings, just like any other Pilates session.
Of all the things that BodyTonic has achieved in the last 17 1/2 years, the thing I am the most proud of is the community. If I ever had any doubt as to whether or not I should continue to put the blood, sweat and tears into running a business it was quickly put to rest as I sat with these beautiful people who have been pulled into our Pilates vortex. If I could bottle up the vibe and give it away, the world would be changed forever.
Pardon me for taking so long to write this response to the recent New York Magazine article entitled, “The Pilatespocalypse: How the Method That Started the Boutique-Fitness Trend Is Going Bust”, by Ms. Annie Lowry, but you see I have just been so tied up running my busy Pilates studio since the article was published that I didn’t have time to write. Note the word busy. Since 1999 when I first opened and very few people even knew what Pilates was, our clientele has been on a steady incline. ... Clients with herniated discs, new moms, men, retirees, and even middle school aged kids, are all flocking to the studio and making requests, because Pilates is so efficient for so many people. We even get requests from Crossfit participants to help them with their back, knee or hip injuries.